After seeing brave...

Brave is a movie that has a princess named Merida and a queen, and they have some arguments the reason for the argument is merida wants to be free and do everything in her own way, but the queen however wants Merida to merry one of the three tribe's sons.
And it made me think what would I do if I was Merida? I thought for a moment and decide I would not marry one of the three tribes but wouldn't insult my mother.
Also the movie mentions fate alot and says fate will find us and I think diffrently because we should find fate not the other way around the reason for this is we should work hard to get something not wait until good luck falls into your hand.
For example it's like waiting to see if you get a lotto winner and don't work but that will almost never happen another example is a cat is just waiting for a mouse to come to its mouth.
Even though the movie was a good one and told us how girls should act,. I think the Fate part is the opposite of my opinon, we should find our own destiny not wating for it to come to you, you choose your own life the fate has got nothing to do with it.